Tears are the not the enemy. They are there to release the pain we cannot put into words. In this way they are like a caring friend walking us through the healing process.
Here are 5 things to remember when the tears come.
1.God sees every tear you cry: In the moments when you feel most alone God is present with you in your grief, here is there like the caring loving Father he is. Be assured that is especially true in your grief. You are not alone.
2. God understands your tears: God experiences our tears as a language all their own. That means that God hears and understands what your heart is saying through the tears even when you can’t express it yourself.
3. Restoring Joy: God can’t restore your loved one to you but God can restore your joy. When you’re able, celebrate the life of the loved one you have lost in any way you can. Honor the lost, write a letter, sing song that was special to you and the person you've lost, do something special that reminds you of the one you've lost. Some of those celebrations may be really small at first. It might be sharing one memory with a trusted friend. It might be looking at one or two of your favorite old photographs. Take it as slow as you need to. This is a Journey, some days will be better then others but take it one day at a time.
4. Tears can be a pathway out of the pain: If you do the hard work of grieving you won’t always feel the way you feel today. Everyday it gets a little easier. I have always hated the word "closure" losing someone you love there will never be closure, there will though, be a day when you will know God has healed that part missing in your heart and that's when the healing begins. You will have happy days again. You will be able to find hope again. And one tear at a time you will come closer to those days.
5. The Courage to Cry: Tears are not a sign of weakness. If anything, tears are a sign of courage. It takes more courage to love deeply than to do any other thing we do in this life. That is because deep love will always eventually lead to the pain of deep loss.
Your tears of sorrow mean that you have had the courage to be vulnerable enough to love someone with your whole heart.